2404 Sourwood Drive

Phoenix, NY 13135

October 26, 1995

Dr. Lois Black

311 Berkeley Drive

Syracuse, NY 13210

Dear Dr. Black:

This letter discusses two items which were a result of our first meeting a few days ago. The first is the names of two additional people I think it may be useful for you to contact (along with my authorization), the second is a request that recordings be kept of all our sessions.

I give my consent that you speak with the following individuals (I can also contact them first if you so desire):

Rev. Michael Meagher (Pastor, St. James Parish, S. Salina, 469-7789): He is the former director of the Aquinas House of Studies, a community home for people considering the priesthood, run by the Diocese of Syracuse. I was a resident there from Jan 1985 - Jun 1985. We were a small community of about 6 people, we ate together, went to classes together, and slept in the same house together. As director he collected peer feedback for us and also evaluated us. He should be a good source for more behavioral information on me.

Dr. Kiyoshi Kimura (Psychiatrist, office: 479-7688): Dr. Kimura and his wife are from Japan. They knew Adrianne when she first came to the United States and also know her family. He is aware of some of the family issues from Adrianne’s past, and can certainly speak to them from a Japanese perspective. When Adrianne and I were dating I also got to know them quite well and they are people we have been in contact with throughout our marriage.

I wish to share some frank concerns with you regarding our first session together. I realize it was a “get to know each other” time, but some of the remarks you made in response to my narrative left me confused and concerned we were not communicating well:

· I explained to you the disagreement Adrianne and I had about her traveling with Domenic to Japan, and how I told her if she took him with her against my wishes it would be a breech in our relationship and could eventually result in divorce. You echoed this back as me making a “threat” against her. I find the word “threat” loaded with connotations which I feel don’t apply here; as a spouse I was letting her know how I felt about the situation and how it could impact our relationship.

· I sensed skepticism as I explained the reasons why I thought our marriage had broken down even before I had a chance to present my reasons.

· When we were discussing my attempts to reengage my relationship with Adrianne, by asking her to the movies, you commented that I “couldn’t get her back in bed again.” I was a little surprised by that. I don’t consider “making love” the first step in healing a relationship - rather that true physical and mental union is the result of a growing relationship. As I am sure you are aware, “making love” without a true personal relationship is just two people masturbating together.

I assume this is not a unique request and that you have procedures that cover such matters. My only clear requirements is that all sessions in which I am involved be recorded (sound alone is sufficient) and that I may use the tapes as I desire in future legal proceedings. I can work out the details with Ms. Walsh if you so desire.

I would like this process to move forward and I apologize for making this request for taping of our activity once things have begun. You report will obviously be a very important one in decisions effecting our entire family; and I would like to ensure that my input into the process is recorded unambiguously and would be available for review by other psychologists should the need arise. Thank You.

Sincerely yours,

John Murtari